Movies and T.V. shows on prime time have all touched on the topic of divorce. Seeing as approximately 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, this isn't surprising. What is surprising is the unrealistic expectations these depictions can produce. Divorce in the real world is generally much, much different.
First off, these shows may lead people to believe that divorce can happen in the blink of an eye. In reality, the divorce process takes time. Although the person who receives notice of the divorce may feel like the process goes entirely too fast, divorce generally goes much slower than those depicted by Hollywood on the big and little screens. If a divorce goes to court, the couple must balance their schedules with the court's schedule. In addition, a variety of paperwork needs to be completed which requires a full disclosure of marital assets, including retirement assets. This can take time to put together, further slowing the process.
The second area to have realistic expectations for is the impact a divorce will have on one's family life. In addition to ending a personal relationship, a parental relationship is also impacted. If children are present in the marriage they must now adjust to their parents living in separate residences as well as potentially having to establish two "homes." Although children are resilient and with support and love can do well with these new arrangements, it will take time and patience.
These are just two of the common expectations that may need to be adjusted while going through the divorce process. In order to help better ensure you leave the process with a more favorable outcome, it is wise to seek the counsel of a divorce attorney.
Source: Huffington Post, "9 Things You Can Expect During Your Divorce," Elinor Robin, July 10, 2014